From the foregoing,one can easily as some question,viz;-
From where have we come! Where are we! Where are we going!
There have been unequal latent social development that if a third party existed,both men and women could have departed for.But even so,we hold one another like a pinch of salt.
The educated woman assisted by activism and technological exploration has left man who is slow in social development in a cross road. In spite of that,the fast developing woman still wants the man to be a provider in an unequal parlance ( economy stupid,"primitive",a career woman) etc.
Moderate women activists like the late Mariama Ba,winner of the Noma award and author of So Longer a Letter are missing in the society today.
The career woman has chosen to spend more time away from the family thereby leaving cracks to percolate.As a result,single parenthood has slowly snowballed in.
To fight it,men have eschewed unto themselves and watch from a safe distance as they play their cards next to their chest as more women try make ups to lure men - sadly,men have not been consulted on the same as beneficiaries,so the point is not taken even when women continue to out do themselves.
In social joints,men entertain themselves as the modern woman also seeks to demonstrate some traits men are yet to approve - spree drinking with other girlfriends,meet at the dance floor and end their.
The old schooled usually make it home to get a good girl from aunt,while the urbanite boy still remains mum's boy at 30,getting a girl mummy and sister are yet to approve ( stay in Karen,Kile etc).His itinerary is still governed by mumy who used to take washed and ironed cloths to school,hand them to the watchman with pocket money every weekend.The clean cloths do not harmonize with the cleanliness of the body.Even with a kibarua,the urbanite boy still stays with mummy to "safe on food and rent".Surely no accounts of how much is saved and no business proposal is mooted anywhere.
So,where are we!
While some women are seeking men to facilitate conceiving,there are some who are aborting. On the other hand,some men are busy designing on how to rape a baby or a granny.
Dating agencies have found fertile grounds to cash where applicants make specifications of the partner they want.Some brothels have sprung up,managed largely by women to get customers (small girls) for quick and instant services. This is what i saw in a foreign land a few years ago where adverts in my then favorite local daily advertised. I never took it serious,or didn't see it coming to my country - perhaps it had not caught my attention.
Science is giving the desiring woman an option,test tube babies.But the option of a baby the desiring woman wants is a baby boy.
But even the children born of both parents today,mumy holds to them " my children" that still at majority age,sit with mummy on bed in mummy's bedroom to discuss issues,you wonder what issues!
I grew up where daddy could not hear of my tete atete with my mother in the kitchen let alone sharing a bench ( no sofa sets).
Ladies,what happens to this boy once you release him to be someones husband! When the wife demands her Haki,mummy has to know.Given the wife's "poor background",mummy and sisters flushes the wife out.If well to do,the poor man finds his cloths in a chwala at the gate!
The sum total of some selected postings we have made here before helps to testify where we have come from,where we are and where we are going.
--- On Sun, 9/19/10, Kuria-Mwangi <kjmwangi@gmail.com> wrote:
From: Kuria-Mwangi <kjmwangi@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: Of Kenyan men and their expectation of women
To: mlalahoi@googlegroups.com
Cc: "Young Professionals" <youngprofessionals_ke@googlegroups.com>, "Giving It Straight" <giving-it-straight@googlegroups.com>
Date: Sunday, September 19, 2010, 10:34 PM
Mburi,. Wacha siasi mingi. One of these days the cousin will give you a TKO and this nonsense will stop. He accused me of enjoying the goods and so you need to reduce the enjoyment to abuse. The stuff you discussed make sense and I do agree with you.
On Fri, Sep 17, 2010 at 8:30 AM, Eric Wabwaya Mburi <ewabwaya@hotmail.com> wrote: Wanaume, Mmesikia hio maneno wamama wanasema? wapi Jex and Machera?I know Kuria was abused by a woman long time ago and may not be keen to discuss this=== Ja'kamburi
To: mlalahoi@googlegroups.com; youngprofessionals_ke@googlegroups.com; giving-it-straight@googlegroups.com Subject: Re: Of Kenyan men and their expectation of women From: modhiambos@yahoo.comDate: Thu, 16 Sep 2010 18:31:05 +0000 JaKamburi, You have spoken, very clearly. The best, fastest, the strongest wins. Can never be explained better. Over to the men. Wajitetee, they are failing us indeed. MillieSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone from Zain Kenya
Date: Thu, 16 Sep 2010 14:31:54 +0000 Subject: Of Kenyan men and their expectation of women
Is this justified?People. I think gone are the days when ladies would settle for a man simply because he is educated. Women are more aware of what they want. If men cannot accept this,then it is our loss. If you saw the well dressed, beautiful ladies bearing the rain and the inconvenience that comes with being part of a colossal crowd in hope of receiving a miracle of the elusive marriage proposal at KICC last time you will forgive most men for thinking they have become Gold. Women in Kenya have almost always been denigrated when it comes to criteria of choosing potential life partners. Our Kenyan women have been labeled greedy, materialistic, impossible etc just because they are seen to set too high a standard for the 'common' man to attain. The recent show at the KICC was met with one general reaction — mockery. But before we label the ladies as desperate, let us consider the trend in nature;==== the animal world. The females in a pack of animals usually pick out the best male in the pack to mate with — the fastest runner, the strongest fighter or the best hunter is the one that gets the girl. This desire for the best seems inherent in nature and is based on the need of a secure future. Mary Whelchel's book, 'Soaring on high: spiritual insights from the life of an eagle', gives insight by allowing one to draw some parallels between the hen eagle and the human female. This majestic bird, like most human beings, mates for life===(Not like Papa who only mates seasonally). She has an elaborate, well planned and purposeful criterion for choosing her life partner. Out of the males that approach her, she picks one to fly with. She gets a stick and together they fly to a certain point where she drops the stick. The male eagle is to fly after the stick and catch it before it touches the ground. If he succeeds, she gets a bigger, heavier stick and drops it from a higher height than before. If the male catches it before if falls on this second round, she proceeds to pick the largest and heaviest stick she can carry and climbs to her highest level. She repeats the process and drops it. The male has to catch this small log before it hits the ground to be considered a suitable mate. If not, she swiftly moves on to look for another male. Why all this testing? Because the potential male has to prove that he will catch the eaglets when they fall from their highly placed nests as they are taught to fly. Is it possible therefore that the 'high standards' our women are accused of having is actually nature's way of applying the 'survival for the fittest' rule among human beings? Additionally, isn't it only logical that when this 'fittest' is not forthcoming, then divine intervention be sought as was seen at KICC two weeks ago? To be fair, the hen eagle does not demand of the male what she herself cannot do. Granted, there are women who, out of greed and laziness, want everything handed to them on a silver platter(that reminds me of my ex girlfriend from Busia-one Agnes Makeni who at one time when I took her for a trip to Meru town--that was 8yrs ago==decided to buy a whole gorogoro-used oil container of about 2kgs= of Ice cream and when I asked her if she was sure to finish it ,she nodded in affirmation only to throw it away 1 hour down the line that she was so full she couldnt finish it), but isn't it unfair for the men to expect ladies to lower their standards and thus risk a future of suffering, lack and an irresponsible partner? I think It is natural for ladies to want financial and emotional security from a future partner and I cannot blame them for seeking divine help in this quest. However, sometimes their demands are foolishly high and with no room for compromise, even when the man is doing his best like Papa. Sometimes a man's reaction towards a woman's image of the perfect mate depends on how that man is socialized(read Kuria wa Mwangi). If he shares the same perception of acceptable standards, then he will not have a problem. If not, then his reaction will be negative Sometimes am tempted to think that men are not only being unrealistic in suggesting that women lower their standards, but also backward. Your take Ja'kamburi -- Follow Me on Twitter: http://twitter.com/robertalai JOB VACANCIES: http://www.myafricancareer.net TECHMTAA BLOG: http://www.techmtaa.com/ To unsubscribe from this group, Email mlalahoi+unsubscribe@googlegroups.com TRAINING VIDEOS; CISM /TOEFL/ GMAT / GRE/ SAT / IELTS / CISSP / MCTS / CISA / CCNA / CCNP / MCSE / MCITP / PHP / PHOTOSHOP / DREAMWEAVER / WEB DESIGN and others, CALL 0726 034 530 Websites for Ksh 15,000? 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